Everybody Loves Raymond star Patricia Heaton regularly checks her son's personal email and phone text messages to find out what's going on in his life. The 48-year-old star has four sons with husband DAVID HUNT - SAM, 13, JOHN, 10, JOSEPH, nine and DAN, eight. And she insists that all parents should secretly check their children's messages to try and protect them from any harm. When asked if her oldest son was interested in girls yet, she says, "I think he is and the only way I know this is because I check his emails. "When he goes to sleep I get his cell phone and check his text messages." The actress insists checking their messages is the only way she can find out what is going on in their lives. She says, "They don't talk to me about anything. They're boys. 'How was school?' 'Fine.' 'What happened?' 'Nothing.' She adds jokingly, "And then a parent will call and say, 'Did you hear about the stabbing on the playground?' And I'm like, 'Why didn't you tell me about the stabbing on the playground?'"