Jennifer Lopez is planning to spend more time with her ex-husband Marc Anthony and their young twins so their kids don't miss out on a family upbringing.

The On the Floor hitmaker split from salsa star Anthony in 2011 after seven years of marriage and she admits daughter Emme and son Max are struggling to come to terms with the break-up.

They recently started to question Lopez about whether their dad would ever come home, and their tough questions have made the singer/actress reconsider how best to co-parent the tots, who will turn five next month (Feb13).

She tells U.S. broadcaster Katie Couric, "This is a learning process and even with Marc and I, I said, 'We should do, maybe, things together.' One of the questions at Christmas was, 'Ok, why aren't we spending Christmas with Daddy, me, you and Emme?', Max asked... I said, 'Well, we can, we can.' I said, 'When you go and spend time with Daddy that's your special time with Daddy for you.' He was like, 'Well, why can't we do something together with Daddy?' And I said, 'We can, I'll talk to Daddy about it.'"

Lopez, who is currently dating dancer Casper Smart, previously revealed she had written a song inspired by the difficult conversations with her kids, called We Loved.

Anthony will have more free time on his hands to spend with his kids and ex-wife - he recently split from his model girlfriend Shannon De Lima.